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Let it Go

Published January 1, 2019 by kemeah

Happy New Year!

I don’t know about everyone else, but 2018 was a rough year for me. So, of course it is time to set new year’s resolutions and goals. How do we set ones we will actually stick to? Why do we do this to ourselves every year?

I think for 2019 the big thing we all need to do is Let it Go.

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We need to let go of other’s expectations of us, and focus on what we need to do for ourselves.  Let 2019 be a year for you. Improve yourself, take that dance class, learn a new hobby or work on your art! Take classes or choose to spend more time with your loved ones.  Go set your reading goal on Goodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/

Do something for you, not to cater to the expectations of others. If you question who your goal is for ask how it affects your Performance, Values, Goals, and Relationships?

Elsa spent her childhood hiding who she was based on what her parents wanted, it forced her to ignore her abilities instead of learning how to use the effectively (and not cause endless winter because of a panic attack), and did not allow her to spend time with the sister she loved.

Once she finally let go of those expectations (in an ear worm of a song)

and learn how much her sister still loves her, she is able to start focusing on herself.  The end of the movie and then in the Frozen Fever short you see her focused on her own performance,values,goals, and relationships. Mostly, making up for lost time with her sister.

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So, for 2019 be like Elsa, let go of other’s expectations and do you!

 

 

Bonus:

Reason I love my husband number infinity: I went out in -2F weather and he took pictures of me as Elsa.

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So it’s sunshine day…

Published December 13, 2018 by kemeah

I have picked up the description of coffee snob, more like I am a caffeine addict with taste but, whatever.

I was discussing this post:

https://www.patheos.com/blogs/thewanderingwitch/2017/12/sankta-lucia-the-survival-of-a-nordic-sun-goddess/?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=FBCP-PAG&utm_content=thewanderingwitch

With a fellow caffeine connoisseur today, because I found it very interesting that Saint Lucia’s day is celebrated by drinking coffee.

He asked what the holiday was about. I brought up that from a nordic heathen prospective, it was a day to honor the sun goddess. Because, just like here in North Dakota, this time of year the Scandinavian countries wouldn’t get much sun light, so they are celebrating the little bit they get.

“Oh, so it’s sunshine day ” he replied to me. “Time for more coffee then.”

Why do I share this story with the internet?

I was running around like a mad woman today for work and spent little time at my desk, so I was out in sunshine. I had not taken the time to appreciate the (North Dakota) nice weather we had today. Nor, had I been grateful that a meeting had been moved to give me time for coffee.

Remember in your busy day to appreciate the little things. The Vikings set a day aside to be thankful for sunshine in the winter,  we need to remember to do the same. Because when we’re thankful for the light, the dark is not so bad.

 

Time for more coffee…

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Obligatory Thankfulness Post

Published November 23, 2018 by kemeah

Well, yesterday was Thanksgiving here in the states, and I’m sure we all saw posts about being thankful for friends,family, jobs,etc.

So what’s the big deal?

Is there a purpose to expressing this gratitude or is it all lip service? Well, it is shown that gratitude is a key component in one’s resiliency. But, it does not have to be in the context of a holiday where you over eat and are possibly stuck with people you can’t stand.

It can be as simple as noticing 3 good things about your day, each day. They do not have to be something big, and some days it might just be the fact that you woke up this morning (which is a feat in and of itself sometimes). My favorite to do this was through journaling.IMG_20180522_221808_417

I’ve fallen off the wagon a bit with these entries lately, but as you see mine is kind of a mix between a bullet journal and a scrapbook. When I started this challenge I had to find my 3 good things for the day, soon I was noticing so many more!

After a while, I fell behind on doing my journal daily, but that’s ok! After you try it out daily, find the frequency that works for you!

If you want journal inspiration check out: #iggledailyjournal

The other important thing to do is to share your gratitude with others, again for big or small things!

Try this right now!

Send someone (friends, family, random mutual on social media) a message saying you appreciate them. See what the response is! Because you gratitude and positivity is contagious and will rub off on them.

Another way would be snailmail. Winter holidays are coming up, send cards to those who helped you survive 2018 (it’s been a hell of a year). It may be the boost they need too!

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Here’s my last batch of outgoing happy mail, holiday cards are being put together soon.

Take it from the goth geek girl, life is not all sunshine and rainbows, but if we don’t appreciate the rainbows when we get them, that’s going to lead to a really gloomy outlook on life.

Hobbit Day

Published September 21, 2018 by kemeah

My introduction to The Hobbit and all things J.R.R. Tolkien was due to my dad being tired of reading me Dr. Seuss (I’m pretty sure 25 years later he can still recite Green Eggs and Ham from memory) and  pulled out what is still to this day, my favorite novel.

So with today being being the 81st anniversary of the book’s publication and tomorrow being Bilbo and Frodo’s birthday, let’s talk hobbits.

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Poor Bilbo, minding his on business, enjoying his hobbies of food and books when some strange bearded man forces him out of his cozy hobbit hole and on to an adventure….

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Things do not really look up from there for a while for a while; Thorin went out of his was to find problems with him, he’s out of his element, away from home and trying to get the hang of his new job. All this poor guy want is to sit by his fire place and have a cup of tea.

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Wait,Wait,Wait…. wrong movie starring Martin Freeman…… Here we go:

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Our darling halfling protagonist does not quit, he does not return home, the dwarves don’t get told to go screw themselves, and he continues to save Thorin and company from sticky situations.

Bilbo uses his size, stealth, keen eyesight, whit, and luck (not to mention a magic ring…)  to be the best burglar he can.

Stuck in the dark with a creature that wants to eat him? Accept its challenge to a game of riddle.

Party in prison? Sneak the out in barrels.

Caught by a dragon? Flatter him until he finds its weakness.

In the end our hobbit is a hero, an unlikely adventurer whisked away from his home who survived relying on his talents and standing resilient in the face of whatever came his way.

Its like this for us sometimes too. We are pushed out of our comfort zone, and feel like we’re in over our heads. We have to dive head first into a new job or new class and this means working with new people. Sometimes those people are going to be like Gandalf and see the best in you, pushing you to learn and grow. Other times, those people are going to be like Thorin, doubting you and criticizing you for not being just like them.

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How do we deal with this situation? When we get ripped from our comfort zone by a well meaning person only to be faced daily with someone who thinks you are worthless?

Be like Bilbo, prove them wrong. Let your skills shine through, show the team what you can do. Those abilities that make you different from everyone in the group? They’re your strengths! Your creativity, your writing skills, being a good listener, your organization skills, or even experiences you have had in the past are things that only you can contribute to the group and you might end up saving the day.

It might not be something they wright into stories and songs, but that insanely large collection of gel pens or your PowerPoint skills may be just what was needed to finish a project. You may not get the happy ending Bilbo got, where your haters become your friends, but you will have thrived outside your comfort zone, ready to take on the next challenge.

What will you do when Gandalf come to your home with 13 uninvited guests? Do you ignore the challenge and pretend it was a bad dream? Or do you rush down the road on an adventure to let your skills shine?

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I will leave you with something fun:

Check out Jonathan Young’s cover of Misty Mountains:

Hopefully it gives you the same chills Bilbo got in the book, and sets you on the right path for your next adventure.

Back at it Again

Published August 1, 2018 by kemeah

Well, this blog has been dead for a while. So, if you are an old follower and I am randomly popping up on your feed after years, um….hi!

Let’s try to figure out how to survive this crazy thing call life together. I want to start looking at resiliency in nerdom. What lessons can we learn from our fictional favs? I am far from perfect, so writing these pieces will be great reminders to myself.

Today, let’s talk Princess Kenny:

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Old news in the South Park world, but with the new DLC for Fractured But Whole out my avatar is wearing this costume and it is definitely one of my favorite things they’ve done with Kenny.

When the kids of South Park play Game of Thrones (and anything surrounding Stick of Truth) Kenny decides he wants to be a princess. So, he puts on a dress and is as kawaii as he wants to be. Kenny does not let anyone tell him he can not be a princess. When Cartman tells him that he can’t, Kenny switches sides in the console wars to keep being his royal self.

So what am I saying? You be you. Be the princess you want to be (yes, that counts you guys too). Wear that weird shade of lipstick. Rock that crop top. Express yourself. And when someone tries to tear you down, do not give them the time of day. Move on and keep being your cute self; it’ll be their loss, not your’s. Be like Princess Kenny, be awesome.

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On a side note, if you haven’t played Stick of Truth or Fractured But Whole I recommend them both. As long as you can stand fart based super powers and well, South Park’s crass take on social commentary, they are really fun and a “easy” version of an RPG game.  Plus, video games are a great way to unwind and de-stress, in moderation of course, but that’s another discussion for another time.